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In Sickness and In Health

I (Mel) used to feel irritated and isolated when Mark was sick, as he’d clam up and shut down.In addition to the daily care of our kids, pets, and household, it seemed to me that I had an additional child to care for.I felt burdened by the extra work of caring for Mark, and I wore myself down caring for everyone else.Yet, when I was sick, I was expected to continue in my usual role and take care of myself.How fair was that?
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Marriage ScoreCard

You may have heard marriage described as a 50/50 proposition with each partner contributing 50% to equal the presumed goal of 100%.  While marriage is not a game, it is common to judge our effort like contestants in a competition.

What Happened to Our Passion?

Do you find yourself wondering, "What happened to us?!?!"  At some point, we all do.  We long for those days when we were dating and first married.  We were full of passion for each other and so in love.  Our lovemaking was frequent and passionate.  It seemed we couldn't get enough of each other.  How did we get to a place where we were rubbing together like sandpaper, each doing our own thing?

Janine:  We found ourselves in a rut.  We realized that we weren't talking like we used to.  Our relationship had slipped to the bottom of our priorities, as the kids, jobs, and outside activities had taken over.  It seemed like we were on opposite teams.

Ken:  If this sounds familiar, we want to encourage you.  This is a common part of the journey.  Our relationship is not just about emotions.  It's not just about sex. It's not just about having things in common.  At our core, what we want and need is to feel loved and respected.  We want to know the one we're co…

Sacred Space

Steph: Do you have enough time in your day to quiet your mind long enough to reflect on your life? Life is so busy with work, chores, children’s activities, that I find it hard to allow my mind to wander and dream. It seems I have to put a reminder on my phone for everything.  If I don’t set aside even a small amount of time each day for peace, quiet, and reflection, how can I ever find the space to ask life’s big questions (or even the little ones)?
Paul: Recently, I reflected on whether I’m carving out enough time for sacred space. What does this look like in my daily life? For me, it means going outdoors alone, sitting in a quiet place (I like a bench along a stream near where we live), and just being alone with my thoughts. Sometimes I read and sometimes I call a friend on the phone, but mostly I just sit there in the quiet. Disconnecting from my to do list and computer for this little respite helps me center myself and regain perspective on what really matters to me.
Steph: I pr…