I Will ROMANCE You Every Day of My Life

Ahh, Romance! You may be thinking wine, roses, candle light dinners and such. Every day would get pretty expensive. Let's call that dating -- more about that in another post. Dating involves an invitation -- that is half the fun. Romance is simple and spontaneous.

Romance is defined as "a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love and remoteness from everyday life."

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Romance is a passionate kiss, turning off the TV and snuggling on the couch. Some of our favorite ways to romance each other are turning off the road into a remote parking spot just to talk, or enjoy a sunset together. Tom has called me on his way home: "OMG look at the sunset!" Enjoying it on the phone adds mystery and intrigue and I can't wait to bear hug him when he pulls into the driveway! A non-agenda phone call or text with a special emoji (not an update to the honey do list) is a great way to say I love you. Romance is being sexy in the kitchen, or a knowing wink from across a crowded room that says you are my 'one and only'. A love note on the mirror or in a lunch box is simple and spontaneous. Surprising Tom at the office with a coke or coffee on my day off can be a mini-break for both of us. When I start my car and discover that he has filled my tank with gas and set a CD to a favorite song my heart is filled with joy. It is as if he is right there beside me.

These endearments demonstrate our love for each other. It is the thought that counts. They cost little but are worth a fortune in the emotional bank account. They keep us connected throughout the day. Often I know what makes Mary Frances happy but sometimes I need to figure out what would make her day. If she is busy paying bills, whistling in the kitchen while I get a jumpstart on dinner maybe just the secret to a great evening. A shoulder rub or conversation might better meet my needs but could be a distraction for her.

Have a conversation with your spouse and find out what makes them happy. It is never the same one day to the next. Don't get bogged down in the details. The best romance is spontaneous! It is simple and sweet and reminds you of why you fell in love in the first place. Richard Bach has said, "True love stories never have endings." Make a commitment to romance your spouse in some little way every day. You won't regret it!

Photo Credit: Patricia Didelot

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