We've all been there...We're doing or saying something to show our spouse we love them, and they don't even notice! For me (Ken), it's natural to show Janine my love by holding her hand or giving her a surprise hug or kiss. Sometimes though, these gestures are not appreciated- or even outright rejected. What the heck! What does she want? There were many times when I (Janine) would DO things for Ken, to SHOW him my love, yet he seemed completely oblivious. I THOUGHT by cleaning the house, putting away his laundry, or paying the bills, he would KNOW I loved him. He was trying to tell me he loved my by hugging me or holding my hand, when I just wished he would sweep the kitchen floor or offer to make dinner. Then we read a book by Dr. Gary Chapman, called The 5 Love Languages . Chapman explains that we each have a primary love language. We tend to "speak" (show love) in "our" language. We also understand love from others best when it i