We’ve been extra busy lately - on weekends and weekdays alike.With everything that we committed to, there
just hasn’t been much time for fun or relaxation. Last night we finally discussed our unmet need for fun.We both were dragging, and being productive was
taking more effort than usual.We felt a
little irritable, and misunderstandings and short responses were more
frequent.There were moments of sudden
tension, and we didn’t receive each other’s sense of humor as well as usual.Our unmet need for fun was interfering with
our relationship! I
(Mel) remember a time when my need for belonging went unmet.Ten years ago, we relocated from Cincinnati
to Detroit.We knew absolutely no one in
our new town!We put on a brave face, but
ultimately, we were suffering separately and therefore felt even more
isolated.My unmet need to belong had me
feeling broken-hearted and lonely, and I lay around most days and cried.I stopped cooking family dinners and we ate
on the couch.I didn’t feel very
romantic. I…