How do you find the right balance of couple time versus individual time? Sports, times with friends/co-workers, Facebook/Pinterest, hunting.... There are a lot of fun activities that can keep us busy - and distracted. None of these activities are bad or wrong in themselves. But... do they draw us slowly away from our spouse? Janine: When we were first married, we spent as much time together as possible. Gradually, my need to stay organized and caught up on my to-do list became more important than going to bed at the same time as Ken. When I started to feel unappreciated, I decided to pour myself into my job. Although there wasn't anything wrong with these activities, I was choosing them for the wrong reasons. Ken: After a few years of marriage and a couple of kids, time at home wasn't as fun as it used to be. I joined a softball team. I found time to go golfing with friends. When I was at home, it was more fun to play with the kids than spend time with