How do you find the right balance of couple time versus individual time? Sports, times with friends/co-workers, Facebook/Pinterest, hunting.... There are a lot of fun activities that can keep us busy - and distracted. None of these activities are bad or wrong in themselves. But... do they draw us slowly away from our spouse?
Ken: After a few years of marriage and a couple of kids, time at home wasn't as fun as it used to be. I joined a softball team. I found time to go golfing with friends. When I was at home, it was more fun to play with the kids than spend time with Janine.
Whether we're just enjoying fun activities, or trying to compensate for what's lacking in our relationship, finding fulfillment outside our marriage leads us back to the attitudes and behaviors we had as single people - living as a "Married Single". It's not so much the activities as the underlying attitude/motivation we need to look at.
The Married Singles trap is a trap we can all fall into, but are wise to avoid if we want our relationship to be the best it can be.