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Time for a Marriage Getaway? "Here's Yer Sign"


You proposed.  She accepted.  White dress, wedding bells.  New house, new bills.  Kids. Jobs. TV. Internet. Full calendar. What happened?  What's next?

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We thought our marriage was "fine" but we were focused on running from one kid's sports to the next kid's music lessons.  There wasn't time for those long talks about our future.  Even though we thought the honeymoon would last forever...it didn't.  We were more focused on the kids than on each other.  As the romance faded, we gradually became more aware of each others' flaws.  We lost sight of  who WE were as a couple.



Eventually we realized marriage doesn't work if it's left on auto pilot.  It takes both of us being intentional about our relationship - including taking time away, just the 2 of us, to get some perspective.  It also means we disconnect from our smart phones, look each other in the eyes, and REALLY talk to each other.
We did just that.  We went to a Worldwide Marriage Encounter Experience.  That weekend away was the best gift we've ever given to each other.  We found our passion for each other again, and put US back at the top of our list of priorities.

So, if Jeff Foxworthy (the comedian known for those "You might be a Red-Neck" jokes) was giving marriage advice, it might sound something like this (think Southern twang accent):
  • If the only time you hold hands is when you need help gettin' up....you should take some time away together!
  • If the last time you were kissed for more than ten seconds, was by yer dog....you might wanna go to one of them there marriage things!
  • If the last time you hugged yer spouse was to dislodge a piece of chicken....you should think about this!
  • If yer love notes begin with "Honey," but end with "Do this and do that'....ya need to take some quality time to focus on the two of y'all. 
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If it's been a while since you've looked at your spouse and said, "You're the most beautiful, amazing person I know," then take the time to go on a marriage retreat and get re-focused.
Yes...we're ALL busy, but we urge you to invest a single weekend for your spouse and your relationship.  Your marriage is worth it!

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