The Couples Post

Courtesy of Pixabay via Pexels The image of a pebble dropped into a still pond is a powerful one for many people. It is a visual representation of the idea that one small act can have a “ripple effect.” It can spread out and be carried across the water of our life and the lives of those around us further than we may perceive. Giving the benefit of the doubt can be that pebble in your relationship with your spouse.

A number of years ago, some friends of ours told us about a little trick they use to keep their marriage healthy, strong, and vibrant. Every year, they pledge to attend some kind of marriage enrichment event together. According to our friends, this does not mean weekend getaways to the beach, skiing, or going to a bed and breakfast together.

 Google "conversation basics" and 4 of 5 bullets focus on listening.  Listening is a vital part of conversation, but Great conversation is a balance of both speaking and listening. Photo Credit: Wynand vanPoortvliet MF : When we were dating, Tom's ability to talk about anything and everything was very attractive.  He is a fabulous storyteller, but sometimes I can't help but interrupt a long story with an entry line like "Zing-zing-zing!" and then proceed to share a point or clarification.  

Image by cottonbro via Pexels Marriage requires serious accountability to each other in order to last.  This is why we are wary of advice to spend time away from each other as if that alone will improve our relationship.  Perfectly valid solo activities can be chosen for the wrong reasons, particularly when the reason is avoiding my spouse.

“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”     Dr. Seuss  July 20, 2020. John:   What seemed like an ordinary Monday was anything but, all because of the vows we made to each other exactly 29 years prior.   As Julie’s brother called to wish us a happy anniversary, he congratulated us and commented that we were “living the dream.” You know what?   He was right.