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Four Basic Psychological Needs

Competence:  need to see oneself as important; to be recognized as worthwhile; to
achieve, to be competent or to be skilled; to have a sense of self-worth

Love & Belonging:  need for relationships and social connections; to give and 
receive love and affection; to have roots; to be part of a larger group or family

Freedom:  need for independence or autonomy; freedom to be an individual; to have 
choices and to be able to take control of the direction of one’s life; freedom to be 

Fun:  the need to play and to laugh, to be spontaneous and irresponsible and relax

Above we've simplified "Glasser's Five Needs" by Dr. William Glasser and added in some extra wording from other sources.  Here is Dr. Glasser's official list:

1) Survival
2) Love/Belonging/Connection
3) Power/Significance/Competence
4) Freedom/Autonomy
5) Fun/Learning

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