· Discuss expectations before starting
a project or free time spent together
· As a couple, discuss priorities to
spend your time
· Make time commitments together as a
couple
· Look at individual gifts and how to
best use them for your relationship
· CHOOSE your attitude before starting
work together
o
Choose
to support your spouse’s to-do’s, job, dreams, etc.
o
Other-centeredness,
generosity & selflessness vs. independence, self-absorption &
stubbornness
o
Focus
on why you married each other
o
Choose
to believe that your spouse’s intentions are positive
· Examine behaviors when you struggle
with teamwork
o
What
do my words tell my spouse?
o
What
does my tone of voice and body language convey? I’m impatient, I don’t care,
I’m irritated, I have no time for you
o
Am
I avoiding? Am I being passive
aggressive?
· Be open to compromise
o
Recognize
that there is your way, my way, and many other ways to get something done that
we haven’t even considered yet
o
Let
go of the need to be right, need for control, need to accomplish MY stuff
· Communicate openly and in a spirit of
love by asking questions to better understand the other’s needs, motivations,
and feelings:
o
What
do you think we should do?
o
Why
is this important to you?
o
What
would you like for me to do to support you?
o
What
can I do better?
· Joke and have fun together!
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