It’s Not About The Dress
The wedding venue, the dress, the flowers, the photographer...when did all this get to be so important?

Rather than the perfect wedding dress, marriage is about laughing at spontaneous inside jokes with your spouse, who is also your best friend. It’s about that knowing look and heart melting moment when after 5 or 15 or 55 years of Marriage, ‘your song’ comes on the radio. It’s also about the peace and security that overwhelms you as you lay in bed together, after an exhausting day of work and laundry and getting kids to school and practice. It’s about making many small decisions to love, every day.
The dress doesn’t even register on a scale that measures fulfillment in married life. Have you ever seen someone’s wedding dress on display at their 40thor 50th wedding anniversary? It’s profound if you think about it – she said, ‘yes’ to THAT particular dress- but, imagine all the much more important ‘yeses’ she and he have said to each other over those years! What a wonderful, complicated journey it is!
YES to this nugget of wisdom and experience!
ReplyDeleteLove, love love this, Ken & Janine! You are spot on! We write in all our engagement and wedding cards- "Enjoy this time, but remember... a wedding is a day. A marriage is a lifetime." So true.
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