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    Sex between a married couple is not only good, it’s very good. If you read the research and surveys, you will find that married couples experience better and more frequent sex than non-married couples. Married couples are healthier, happier, and live longer. When we went on a WorldWide Marriage Encounter weekend, we were more than a little surprised when a priest told us that our love-making is good, is important for us, and is important to the world. He encouraged us to “make mad passionate love!”

    So, why has married sex become something else? Society and media portray sex for married couples as dull and lifeless, a tool used to manipulate, something to joke about, and something that - beyond the newlywed phase- gradually drifts away. We’ve been sold this bill of goods, and we often buy into it! What we really crave in our sex life is to give and receive something powerful- to experience the depths of our passion and love for each other, to be as intimate as possible. Our frequent love-making helps to keep the batteries of our relationship re-charged.

Be adventurous.   In the early years of our marriage, we wondered, “What will our sex life be like after we’re married 15, 30, 45 years?” After 28 years, our sex life continues to be a powerful source of passion, love, and strength. One of our good friends says, “The barometer of the overall health of our marriage can be measured by our sexual passion.” Our sexuality is not only what happens in the bedroom (though that’s a very important part). Our sexuality includes what happens all day every day: holding hands, a gentle touch or pat on the bottom, snuggling on the couch, a kind word or deed. We strive to make each other the priority and make many little decisions to love each day- even when we don’t “feel like it.” The more we want and prioritize a vibrant sex life, the more all of these expressions of love come to life… the more WE come to life. And who doesn’t want more of that?

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