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What are you passionate about?

Jen: Passion is defined as an intense desire or enthusiasm for something. In my life, I’m passionate about our children – making sure they are loved and supported, helping them become responsible adults. I’m passionate about my work, helping kids develop a love of reading. I’m also passionate about my hobby of quilting, trying to create art through fabric. All of these things fill me with an intense desire and enthusiasm in varying degrees.


Nick: Though I tend to be even-keeled, I am also passionate about the things that matter to me.  I care deeply about our kids and the volunteer work I do.  I’m also trying to make a difference in the world in my day job.  I’m blessed to lead a team at work.  I’m passionate about their development and career growth.  I want the best for them and feel encouraged when they are passionate about their accomplishments and the new things they’re learning.

Jen:  Am I passionate about my marriage, too? Being passionate in marriage does not just apply to the things we do in the bedroom. It’s in the little things I do for Nick because I love him, like getting out of bed first to feed the cats in the morning so he can sleep longer.  I am passionate when I do bigger things for Nick, like swallowing my pride and asking for forgiveness when I know I’m in the wrong. Even though I am passionate about my marriage, it doesn’t mean there won’t be days that are difficult. This is true in all things – not every day of parenting is joyful. Not every day at work is uplifting. Not every quilt I make turns out as I thought it would. But setbacks don’t destroy my passion in these things, and trials, arguments, and disconnects in my marriage don’t dampen the passion. They make me fight harder for it.

Nick: It can be a challenge to be as passionate about our marriage as I am for other parts of my life.  It’s almost as if the safety and familiarity of our relationship become easy excuses for me to take Jen for granted.  That’s when I need to take a step back and re-evaluate my priorities.  With some effort in the little things, like making a point of spending some quality time unwinding with Jen each day, I can keep our passion from running dry.

Are you as passionate about your marriage as you are about all the other people and things in your life?  We encourage you to invest all the time and energy you can to make sure the answer to this question is a resounding YES.


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