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25 Conversation Starter Questions on Sexuality


1.   Do I prefer spontaneous or planned sex?  Why?

2.   When is my favorite time of day to make love with you?  When is my least favorite?  Why?

3.   How do I feel about the frequency of our love making?

4.   What do I enjoy most about our love making?  Why?

5.   What do I enjoy least about our love making  Why?

6.   What about our love making has changed over the recent years?  How do I feel about that?

7.   What would I like to change about our love making?  How do I feel telling you this?

8.   Is privacy an issue for me when making love with you?

9.   Lights on?  Lights off?  Do I have a preference?

10. How do I feel about being naked in front of you?

11. How do I feel when I see you naked?

12. How did I first learn about sex?

13. How did I feel about sex when we were first married?

14. Have my attitudes, thoughts and feelings about our love making changed as we have grown as a couple?   

15. How do I feel when you ask me to make love to you?

16. How do I feel thinking about making love to you?

17. How do I feel when we get interrupted while making love?

18. How do I feel when love making doesn't go as either of us had hoped?

19. Do I worry about pregnancy or not being able to get pregnant?

20. How do I feel making love after we have been in conflict with each other?

21. Is there anything that I would consider off limits in our love making?

22. Do I ever daydream or fantasize about making love to you?

23. Would I be comfortable making love anywhere besides our bedroom?

24. What helps me to get in the mood for love making?

25. How do I feel talking about our sexual relationship with you?

 

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