Sex between a married couple is not only good, it’s very good. If you read the research and surveys, you will find that married couples experience better and more frequent sex than non-married couples. Married couples are healthier, happier, and live longer. When we went on a WorldWide Marriage Encounter weekend, we were more than a little surprised when a priest told us that our love-making is good, is important for us, and is important to the world. He encouraged us to “make mad passionate love!” So, why has married sex become something else? Society and media portray sex for married couples as dull and lifeless, a tool used to manipulate, something to joke about, and something that - beyond the newlywed phase- gradually drifts away. We’ve been sold this bill of goods, and we often buy into it! What we really crave in our sex life is to give and receive something powerful- to experience the depths of our passion and love for each other, to be as intimate as possible. Our freq…
Yes, this is a strange twist. We recently heard about James J Sexton's book, "If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late." James is a divorce attorney from New York, who started noticing some patterns after 20 years of working with couples whose marriages were ending.
Something that we’ve become increasingly aware of in our
marriage is how our tone of voice so significantly affects our communication –
for better or for worse! It is remarkable how something so seemingly small can
make such a huge impact on whether our communication is healthy, productive,
and enriching or debilitating, disheartening, and provocative. Believe it or
not, tone of voice is huge. WE would go as far as to say tone of voice is at
the root of most of the small hurts we experience in our relationship.
Perhaps it would be easier to make our case using an
example. Recently, we were trying to get out of the house to go to church and be
on time. I (Stephanie) have to admit I am typically the one who is running
behind trying to get one last thing put away or rushing because I did not plan
my time well. Paul will often playfully turn the hall light on and off letting
me know he is by the door ready and waiting. Usually I will laugh it off and
tell him I am coming. This particular…