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How to Foster Teamwork - A Starter List

·       Discuss expectations before starting a project or free time spent together
·       As a couple, discuss priorities to spend your time
·       Make time commitments together as a couple
·       Look at individual gifts and how to best use them for your relationship
·       CHOOSE your attitude before starting work together
o   Choose to support your spouse’s to-do’s, job, dreams, etc.
o   Other-centeredness, generosity & selflessness vs. independence, self-absorption & stubbornness
o   Focus on why you married each other
o   Choose to believe that your spouse’s intentions are positive
·       Examine behaviors when you struggle with teamwork
o   What do my words tell my spouse?
o   What does my tone of voice and body language convey? I’m impatient, I don’t care, I’m irritated, I have no time for you
o   Am I avoiding?  Am I being passive aggressive?
·       Be open to compromise
o   Recognize that there is your way, my way, and many other ways to get something done that we haven’t even considered yet
o   Let go of the need to be right, need for control, need to accomplish MY stuff
·       Communicate openly and in a spirit of love by asking questions to better understand the other’s needs, motivations, and feelings:
o   What do you think we should do?
o   Why is this important to you? 
o   What would you like for me to do to support you?
o   What can I do better?
·       Joke and have fun together!


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